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It is my responsibility as an educator and leader to speak up so that we give our students the best and allow them to reach their full potential.

Because of my knowledge of the process of the crucial conversation, I now feel confident in myself to discuss my innovation plan, 6 Sources of Influence, 4DX, and anything else that comes my way. To be this self-differentiated leader I will have to be willing to have the hard conversations, the ones that others donвЂ™t. I want to be a good leader, a self-differentiated leader that connects with others without losing my own identity (Camp, 2010). The key to having a crucial conversation is simple, but easier said than done вЂ“ listen and speak respectfully. After a long history of invasion and revolt, the Jewish people became desperate to assert their own. (ESV Study Bible, The Time Between the Testaments, 1783-1784). Only then can we turn the talk into action as we make good decisions TOGETHER (Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, & Switzler, 2012). As a result, the Jews rebelled against the Seleucid Empire in what is known as the Maccabean Revolt, and became self-ruling again until the Romans conquered Judea in 63 B.C. Once IвЂ™ve shared my story, it is vital that I LISTEN to others involved and get their perspectives. Then I can move to STATE my path by sharing my facts, telling my story, asking for othersвЂ™ paths, talking tentatively, and encouraging testing as I express my thoughts in a way that is direct but respectful. Once we have gotten back on the right path, it is important to master my stories by getting in touch with my feelings and being honest with myself. I also need to remember that an appropriate apology regains the safe space rather than admitting a weakness. вЂњWhat are we talking about? What is going on beneath the surface? Has this become crucial? Does everyone feel safe? Is a feeling of being unsafe leading to silence or violence?вЂќ At this point, we need to step back to safety to discuss mutual purpose and mutual respect. Once I have done that, I will look carefully around me and within. The first step of the process is to start with the heart вЂ“ to think about what I REALLY want. The start of the change is me, and the only person I can control is myself, so I need to focus on my own thoughts before I bring them to the table. To have a crucial conversation with dialogue, We first need to know WHY we are having it. If we want to be successful we need to TALK about our innovation planВ and our intentions for implementing the plan using the 6 Sources of Influence and 4DX, remembering the вЂњwhyвЂќ throughout the conversation. We cannot be silent or passive, as this is lonely, ineffective, and wasteful. Having these conversations can be intimidating because we feel vulnerable, but in that vulnerability is where effective communication lies.

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